Barbara Jo Mears - My Mother in Law and Friend

A year ago, my Mother in Law, Barbara, died. She had been in a great deal of pain for several years and her passing was truly a release. It changed my life. My wife and I didn't create an obituary for her at the time. Since the year has passed, we decided to write a memorial statement for her. This is what I sent to the local newspaper:

Barbara Jo Mears

March 5, 1945 – November 2, 2009

            It’s very hard to accept that it’s been a year since Barbara left us. Beloved mother, mother-in-law and grandmother; friend, confidant, leader, listener and a most gentle soul; Barbara was able to see the very best in people, even when they didn’t see it in themselves. She kept a special place in her heart for all animals, especially the many pets which shared her life.

            Barbara was a “sixth-generation Nevadan” and she loved Reno. Her family members were civic-minded citizens and leaders in the community. More important, they took care of each other, as well as friends, neighbors and people in need. She taught her daughter the importance of caring and to treasure the people in your life.

            Barbara worked in many different companies in Reno. Most of her friends were people she worked with, side-by-side, every day. Even when she was no longer able to work, those same friends did their best to look out for her, look after her and help care for her.

            Barbara loved life. She loved to learn and she loved to experience all that life had to share. Our greatest regret is that the pain that intruded into her last years kept Barbara from participating in the many events, experiences and activities which she enjoyed so much. We are grateful that Barbara no longer knows pain. She is free, comfortable and at peace.

            Barbara, we miss you. We cherish your memory and we celebrate your life.